Persevering Through Challenge

 That's how I've been feeling lately with my ACL/MCL rehab journey. I've followed all the instructions. PT three times a week and rehabbing on my own on days off. Leg extensions, heel slides, squats. I even woke up doing quad sets in the middle of the night last week.

 It's not that I'm failing. My providers are basically happy with my progress. People around me say things like, "Wow you are staying so positive!"

 But I wobble when I walk. Making my bed takes forever. I've lowered my expectations about what I can get done (including writing newsletters). And while it's true on some level that I’ve stayed positive, I'm also very tired. 

So for this month's message, I'm sharing strategies I'm leaning into in real time. These are tools I use with my clients when the going is tough and the road ahead is long.

If you've worked with me, you know that my coaching approach starts with progress. Because what we focus on grows. I open most sessions with some version of "What's gone well since we last met?" 

And there is always progress, however small it may seem. Made it to PT—that's perseverance and hope. Did rehab at home—that's self-regulation. Reading this newsletter for inspiration qualifies.

What small win can you claim to propel you forward?

What strengths and resources did you draw on to take that step?

One of the best pieces of advice I got lately came when a friend who has been mothering me in the most welcome way told me, "You think you are going to be the best at rehab. That you are going to do such a good job, you'll come back faster than anyone else. Well, it's not like that." 

This gem, and another from a colleague who advised me to print out a diagram of a knee to connect with what is happening to my body, shifted my perspective. I'm more accepting of the pace of my recovery and more grateful for my healing because of these insights. 

Not to mention all the dishes my family has been doing—without complaint— while I sit at the kitchen table. Thank you.

Who supports you?

How and with whom can you disclose a little more of your struggle today?

And finally, take a moment to be kind to yourself.

In my work I lean heavily on the wisdom of Kristin Neff, PhD, who drew on years of research to create a three step process you can do by yourself when you are experiencing strong emotions in a challenging moment. Useful for anyone, her method is particularly handy for clients who struggle with self-criticism. Here's how it works:

Name the emotion. For example—I’m so stuck. I can't believe my knee blew up again! This feels unending.

Remember you're not alone. For example—There are people all over the world dealing with ACL reconstruction, struggling downstairs, icing their knees, and frustrated. No matter what you are dealing with, others are on similar journeys.

Give yourself some words of encouragement, like you would a dear friend. For example—"You are doing the best you can. You got through surgery, your recovery is in process, and you are learning so much through this experience. You are right where you need to be." Speak to yourself with care.

These approaches are applicable to health, wellness and life challenges. If you're working towards something important to you, and it feels elusive, you're in good company. I'd love to hear how these tools resonate. And as always, I'm here for a deep dive customized to your needs. 

Book a free 30-minute exploratory call here. Or shoot me an email right now.

 With best & warmest regards,

Jennifer 🌱